Have you ever had trouble making a decision? Worried you may make the wrong choice?
Two years ago I left my life in California to move back to the East Coast for family reasons. I struggled with two job offers. One option seemed ideal, working for a top agency in New York City, but the owner had a less than stellar reputation in the industry. The other opportunity was working at home for a similar, but a less successful company based in California. I clicked with the California boss but working full time from home was not what I had in mind. I had gotten used to my previous position working two days in the office and three days at home. It was a good balance.
I worried I would make the wrong decision and be stuck. Whichever job I took would not be the right choice in some way. I had reservations about both jobs, but the agency in New York City was more alluring for the prestige factor.
Which one did I choose? You guessed it – the company in New York City.
Are you wondering if I made the right choice?
I never walked into a job on the first day and thought this is not going to work. My heart sank. I hadn’t seen the office before I accepted the position. It was closet size, okay maybe a walk in closet.
I met an agent the day I started who was no longer there a few days later. I sensed this was not uncommon. The office was seven people. Two rows of four desks, all attached, facing each other. The odd setup had you staring at your co-workers all day long, not by choice. You could hear everyone’s conversations. The week I started, the 2nd in command let me know that anyone who commutes doesn’t last. Thanks for the vote of confidence.
I managed to make the job last two and a half months, and that was two and half months too long.
Did I make the right choice? I know what you are thinking.
But here is the thing. I realized this job was the right choice. How can I say that given I lasted less than a turn of a season? Because it led me to ask what is next. Do I want to be a speaker agent any longer? Do I want to work for anyone anymore? My last three bosses had no clue how to manage people or create thriving working environments. What are my chances that I would attract a similar boss in my next job?
My perfect exit. A farewell to chaotic and stifling work environments.
What is the point? We all worry we are going to make a wrong choice. We freeze in fear and don’t make a leap, or we need to make a decision, and we doubt if we are making the right one.
There are no wrong choices, just next steps. It is better to move forward than to remain stuck. Whatever decision you make, another one can be made. Your choice is not final.
What appears to be the wrong step, is the perfect step. It is the step that moves you forward in your evolution. Don’t be afraid to make a decision for fear you are making the wrong one. Just decide and you can always course correct.It is more powerful to make a decision than to stand on the sidelines.Click To Tweet